From the very beginning of our travel plans we always said we would only go if we were in the fortunate position to return to the Netherlands whenever someone from our inner circle needed us. Back then both our fathers were still alive and being present for them felt essential. It was a condition for even starting this journey.

Until last week there had not been a reason to use that freedom beyond our planned visits. Somehow we never really felt far away. We still speak to some loved ones more often than before and video calls and social media help us stay close and visible in each other’s lives, even within our wider circle.

But this past week we used our travel card. We had to say goodbye to my friend Janneke’s father. For me it was a chance to be there at a moment that truly matters, in the moment itself and in the memories later. It was deeply meaningful, especially knowing she had been there for me during a difficult time. Now I could be there for her and I was received with heartfelt gratitude.

I am also grateful that we could share the emotions and experiences that come with losing someone so important. This coming week Edwin will also travel back to the Netherlands to be with his friend for a similar reason. Living at a distance does not mean you cannot be there for someone, it just means you must choose to be and be willing to let go of the financial side of things. For us that is a conscious choice and one we feel lucky to live by.

As a beautiful extra I got to spend time with my own family, warm hugs, simple presence and real conversations without the barrier of a screen. Just being together. And although I missed my own little family it was also nice to have that time without the distraction of everyday life.

Now I am on my way back, back to my loved ones, back home. I feel grateful.

Sometimes being far away makes being close mean even more.

Written by: Mirjam